I wrote this to myself a while back. It helps me sometimes to re-read and reflect on it. Maybe you can find some encouragement in it. :) Oh BTW this stuff is based on my own experiences, examining the consequences I have observed from my behaviors in the past. I feel like I have pretty much learned "what not to do" the hard way...
This world and the people in it are not perfect... in fact they aren't even slightly close. This includes you and me as well.
If you go around expecting the world and all the people in it to always do you right and for things to always work out for you; you are setting yourself up for a life full of disappointment, self-pity, fear and resentment.
If you go around expecting yourself to be perfect and always do the right thing; you are setting yourself up for a life full of disappointment, regret, shame, fear and arrogance.
Remember not everyone thinks the same way you do. We are all living on the same planet, each in our own little worlds. We can never completely get into someone elses world, but we can do our best to have empathy.
Let go of expectations. I don't mean in a "fuck it all" kind of way. Keep your boundaries, stand your ground and strive for excellence just remember to forgive others as well as yourself. Learn from the good and the bad experiences, because most things are not really all good or all bad. Learn from the wise people and the foolish people you encounter alike. Fuck self-pity. Don't live in regret and resentment. Give others the mercy and compassion you would like to receive.
Yes, this world is a fucked up place but there is beauty to witness here as well. Keep your mind here in the present because it is really all we have. Breathe, look around and know that you are a part of it all. The beauty and the brokenness, the sacred and the mundane.
Embrace the light, the shadows and the darkness; the pleasure and the pain; the harmony and the chaos.
Take a deep breath, relax your clenched jaw and look at the sky.